During a session recently, I was told that I was “weird”. Through the smiles and laughter, I was told that I was fun and different than what they thought a counselor would be like. When asked what this person expected, they said they thought I’d be an old guy, with a suit, no smile, and overly serious. I got so much information out of that session, and the person told their parent that they wanted to come back and talk again.
I’ll be honest. I always thought I’d focus on adults when I went back to school to be a counselor. After 3 different jobs that focused my attention on children and adolescents, I have to say that I now feel a little differently. I now love talking with children and teenagers to see what they want and how they plan to get it. We brainstorm, often over an activity, to see what options they have and how to get their parents on board. Sometimes, the focus is getting the parents and children on the same page. Other times, it is working with the parents, to help them know how to interact and communicate with their children more effectively.
Adults get the same treatment. I talk with people. I let them teach me their life and perspective. I let them describe what they see, think, and feel. Even when I am not in my office, I have people that tell me about their lives. Everybody has a story to tell.
Telling your story is one of the first steps. I would dare say that you have to set up the context of the situation first, before you know what you can/want to change. After that, it is a matter of working out specific steps to reach those goals and the “traps” that can stop you. As a third party observer, I can help you see what helps or hinders your pursuit of your goals.
The technical side of getting together is pretty cool, I think. I set people up by phone, but you can also go the the tab on my website that says “schedule an appointment”. This will take you to a secure site with a calendar. You sign in, decide the day and whether you want an a.m or p.m. appointment, My site will then notify me that you want a meeting.
When you first enter my office, you are greeted by a wonderful front desk staff that ask you if you want anything to drink. Several people have stated how relaxing it is to have a warm drink (coffee, latte, tea, hot chocolate) while they talk. For me, it seems to ease the tension and “starch” feeling that medical type offices often have.
You never really know what your missing until you visit. Come by and see me. I would love to talk with you.